In the blog post titled “4 Ways You Can Pursue Your Dreams AND Be a Great Mom”, I wrote about how we need to pull our dreams off the back burner and begin to pursue them. The blog post includes a list of tips we can follow to accomplish our goals, dreams & desires. When I wrote that blog post a few years ago, I crossed a few goals off my list and began the process of resetting my focus on new ones while also supporting my daughter as she pursues her dreams. While reading over that blog post again today, I thought about the events which allowed me to connect with my passion and pursue a few more of my dreams and goals.
Recently I completed a year-long coaching certification training to become a sex, intimacy & body confidence coach. The training consisted of over a year of transformational coursework that included well over 650 hours of training & practice coaching sessions. I connect to this work because of my own self-love journey.
There was a time I didn’t love myself or my body. I felt broken & undesirable and didn’t like the woman staring back at me in the mirror.
Although I’ve had support and mentorship along the way, it has not been an easy journey for me. With the help of a few simple steps and practices, I learned how to love, accept and celebrate myself. I soon experienced an increase in self-confidence and reconnected to my pleasure. With my new feelings of acceptance and self-love, I started celebrating myself again! One way I celebrated myself was by scheduling a boudoir lingerie photo shoot last summer and I have another one scheduled for my birthday in April.
Throughout the certification program, I learned so much about myself, my past and my healing process. I also connected to my desire to help others. As a Passion & Pleasure Coach, I help women on their self-love journey as they heal from their past, connect with their bodies and reclaim their pleasure. I also help men feel more empowered, confident and sensual during intimacy.
In the blog post, I listed four ways to focus on and pursue your goals and dreams. Here’s how I followed my own advice and began the path of pursuing my passion project of helping men & women through my work as a Passion & Pleasure Coach.
1. If your children are old enough, involve them in your goals and dreams. Ask them to hold you accountable for completing a dream-related task. They’ll get a kick out of bossing you around, and they’ll unwittingly give you the time you need to meet your own goals.
✨ We had a very aggressive schedule of coursework for the certification training. The program included watching live & recorded videos, a plan for reading books on the book list, daily meditations, and homework to complete. There was also a checklist of the scheduled tasks for each module to keep us on track. I decided to work on my homework and course tasks during my daughter’s homework time. This way, I never felt guilty for focusing so much time and attention on my coursework. She also thought it was funny that I had homework to complete. As I mentioned above, she did get a kick out of asking if I had any assignments and checking in with me to make sure I completed them. 😂
2. Let your family/household know when you need time to complete a task (online course, finish reading a book, journal writing for upcoming blog or book idea). Give them the incentive of your undivided attention to their activities once you’re done.
✨ This tip ties into #1 perfectly because the family time served as an incentive for both of us. Once homework time was complete, we took pleasure in deciding which family activity we wanted to enjoy together. We would cook dinner together, watch football or our favorite tv shows, or dance around the house. We always found time to make a Tiktok video (or two)! If I ever needed more time for coursework once my daughter completed her homework, I waited until after she went to bed. I never want anything to interfere with my promise of having family time together. ❤️
3. Be diligent and resilient. You’ll make mistakes and missteps along the way. When that happens, have the determination to dust yourself off, pick yourself up, and try again. Remember that old saying we all learned in school – if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
✨ I love this tip because it gives us permission to be human! As moms, it is so easy to believe we need to be perfect or have the powers of superwoman to be a great mom. This is not true. We need to be there for our children and families while also giving ourselves permission to make mistakes and try again. No one expects us to be perfect. We need to remove that expectation and celebrate ourselves more often! 🥳
4. Write your dreams down. Write them in big letters and post them in a place where you’ll see them every day. The constant reminder will help you maintain focus and help your family realize first that you have dreams and then how important your goals are to you.
✨ This tip is something the whole family can get involved in. I encourage my daughter to write her goals in her journal or post them on the mirror in her room. Writing my goals in my journal and displaying them in my room serves as an example for her. Also, taking steps to work towards my goals reinforces this practice for my daughter. 👍
Bonus tip from the original blog post: Break your dreams down into manageable, daydream-sized goals.
✨ Deciding to sign up for the coaching certification program was a big step toward becoming a Passion & Pleasure Coach. To get through the entire year of coursework, I had to break each step into manageable goals I could work on every day.
I’m thankful for the self-love journey that allows me to pursue my goals & dreams. This work as a Passion & Pleasure Coach serves my desire to help others on their self-love journey. I look forward to following the tips shared above as I continue creating & pursuing new goals and dreams. 💖
What do you dream of? What have you placed on the back burner? What are you ready to step into on your self-love journey?
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